Relationships 101

Noone is perfect, but whether you are a man looking for the best woman for you, or a woman looking for Mr. Right,--take a look at these top 6 qualities in order to have a good stable relationship:)

6) Nag free. A good woman or man is going to be nag free. Nagging is an ineffective method of trying to get your loved one to perform a task you desire. Trust me – it doesn’t work and often will have the opposite of its intended affect.

5) Supportive. Are you supportive? What does it mean to be supportive? Do you belittle your loved one or do you help him/her to feel good about him/herself his/her job, activities? Your loved one will be much more respectful of you if you are supportive. Even when you don’t agree with him/her – respectfully let him/her know you don’t agree – then support support support anyway. Otherwise, if he/she has difficulties – he/she will feel as though you’re adding to his troubles.

4) Build up your loved one. There’s no quicker way to build resentment in your loved one than to criticize – especially in front of others. On the flip side – try genuinely complementing your loved one in front of other people. Your loved one will glow with admiration toward you and you’ll feel his/her appreciation as love.

3) Respect. A good partner will try to treat his/her lover with respect. How? Much of learning how to be respectful toward your love one has to do with the way you talk to him/her. The old phrase “It’s not so much what you say but how you say it” should become your motto. This doesn’t mean you need to be careful what you say to your love one– just be respectful in the way you say it.

2) Communicate. Ironically, good communication between men and women can be quite frustrating. However, a good partner will seek to discover what’s on his/her other partner's mind and find a way to express him/herself in a calm manner. Take the time to have a "talk". Often, men and women will make a joint decision – while the man thinks she’s in agreement with him – but only to discover later that she thought the decision was a bad idea. Talk it out!

1) Be pleasant. Work to be pleasant toward your partner. Don’t be one of those people who makes everyone around you feel bad just because you’ve had a hard day. Good things will come from being pleasant. It’s a decision – just decide to be pleasant. But if you can’t be pleasant – make a decision not to bring your loved one down with you.

Happiness

Most of us look forward to living many years experiencing happiness and contentment.
We hope to live the lives that we have dreamed of—a life of happiness... Life is captured in moments ingrained in our memories, so we should make each moment count with acceptable actions that work toward our goals. The following are some tips and practices that will promote happiness in your life:

1. Set a good example. Live a life that embraces fairness, sincerity, thoughtfulness and caring. Younger people, as well as adults, are impressed with those who have principles and stand up for what is right.
2. Be thankful. Life is to be enjoyed. Part of that enjoyment is accepting blessings with appreciation and gratitude.
3. Avoid anger. Someone once said “Anger is like throwing stones at a bee hive; you may be surprised at what happens.” Bouts of anger imply no control, a situation usually resulting in regret and disappointments. Often an angered person loses friends, partners and others. No one likes to be caught in a web of uncontrolled anger.
4. Be POSITIVE. It is easy to become discouraged always thinking the worst is to come. Financial problems, health concerns, and family troubles, at times, make life seem onerous and burdensome. Review life achievements, friendships and other assets. Gain control and see the good in your life and in the lives of others.
5. Live with self-discipline. Developing self- discipline means learning to say “no” to situations that might damage physically or mentally. Many decisions are made daily. Distinguish those that are beneficial from those that are harmful. Control your life with thought, intelligence and zeal.
6. Work against self-pity. Feeling sorry for yourself is a solitary occupation which doesn’t impress or attract friends. Develop self-assurance based on your past accomplishments and accentuate the positive aspects of your life.

One last thing...accept what you cannot change. Change the things you can:)